It has been a couple of weeks since my last post, and my brief hiatus is simply due to a cruddy cold that I can’t seem to kick. It came uninvitedly over the holidays and is definitely over staying its welcome. These past few weeks though I have had a lot of time to think about what my next post should be, and even though I have thought of several flight attendant related topics, I kept coming back to this.
As I have been expressing in my recent posts, work has been getting me down a lot recently, but I really feel like I am finally out of my funk and I am enjoying my job again. A lot has been changing within the company and instead of embracing the change I have been putting up a little resistance which is why it has all been so hard. I do miss the way things were before, but we aren’t going to get back to that so its time to adjust and move on. After I started accepting that and saw things improving with my mood at work, I started to think about a few other things in my life currently and what has been holding me back.
I have always thought of myself as a fairly happy person, but up until the last 3 years, I don’t think that I was truly happy. I know everyone can base their happiness on different things, but the way that I see it, happiness can be determined by one question:
“If you found out you were dying, what would you do?”
I used to think of things that I would change in my life if this were the case, but now I can honestly say that I wouldn’t need to change anything. I am living my life exactly the way that I want to. Im in a job that provides me the lifestyle that I want, I stay in touch with my family and friends as much as I can, and I take the risks whenever I need to so that I am not wondering, “what if…”.
It seems that people mostly struggle with the risk taking and I don’t understand why. Maybe it’s telling someone that you like them, maybe its moving to an unfamiliar place, or maybe its taking up a new hobby that seems intimidating, but people seem to get so stuck in what they are comfortable with and it prohibits them from living the life that they deserve to live. Yes, these things can be scary, but I always remind myself, “Someone has been in this position before,” and that helps calm the nerves. When I picked up and moved to Minneapolis, I got on a plane in the place that had always been home and I got off in a place I had never even visited before. I was nervous I admit, but I told myself someone else has done this before and its been fine, and guess what! So far, everything has been fine!
Recently, I met someone who was a bit older who has had to re-enter the dating world. This is another area that people really seem to struggle with when it comes to happiness and it shouldn’t! Dating should be fun, but it comes back to the whole risk thing. This guy said he was struggling because in his last relationship he had to tone down a lot of his personality to make things work, and so when he started dating again, he thought that is how he was supposed to act. He shared with me and another girl about how important it is to just be yourself and stop trying to be the person you think that someone else is going to like. It seems so obvious, but that simple reminder helped me remember that the me that I am right now is great, and ultimately there is someone out there who is going to mesh perfectly with that, but if I am not true to myself from the beginning, I might not be able to find them!
Putting yourself out there can be a bit intimidating, but the reward will eventually be so worth it! Don’t miss out on the opportunities for happiness! Go for it! If things don’t work out, don’t be discouraged! Just try again, and keep trying until you find the person who is right for you! I’d be lying if I told you that you’d forget about the times things didn’t work out…I still remember when I asked a guy to prom, he said yes, and then took it back the next day…but those times will make you laugh in the future and they just don’t matter in the long run!
For 2018, I hope that you all strive to be the you that you want to be! The happiness you find in yourself will radiate to those around you and the positivity that you share with others will eventually start to come back to you! Don’t let a bad day, a rejection, or a trial, deter you from making the choices you want to make! This is the year of you, so get out there and discover what that means, because nobody else can do it for you!